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I ordered this book to gain a better understanding of my own past, having been sexually abused when I was five years old by a teenage neighbor.
Though I have sought some counseling about my past, I found this book a confirmation of my eschewed thought patterns that I've wrestled with throughout my life. The only difference is that I've never suffered from bulimia, anorexia, or cutting myself, nor have I purposely sought out physically abusive relationships.
However, to say that my sexual violation has not changed my personality since I was five or driven my patterns of thinking into unhealthy attitudes and low self-esteem, would be a lie. It's one thing to understand some of the more dangerous and hurtful behaviors directed toward self as a result, but I think the psychological effects of abuse, without all the other physical manifestations, are just as debilitating, such as self-hatred, shyness, depression, inability to accept love, inability to trust men, not being able to stand up for yourself or say no...the list is endless.
The case studies in this book were interesting and a validation that what I've faced as a result of my abuse is typical of others. To coin a line in the infamous best seller about a man abused as a child, all I can is, "I don't know any other way...this is who I am." For some reason, I find that comforting. I didn't ask to be cast into this mold. It was forced upon me, and I can definitely say that my tomorrows were stolen.
If you're interested in learning more, I encourage you to purchase this book.